Mill valley, California…living room :)

Success Center San Mateo, CA

Los Gatos, Office

Bedroom, Victoria BC Canada

I’m in my living room in Berkeley, CA

Office in San Deigo

Couch in Oakland CA

Joining you from the kitchen of my home in Winnipeg Manitoba Canada

I’m in my kitchen in Leawood, Kansas

Living room, San Francisco

my LR in Stl

Kitchen-Winnipeg, Manitoba Canada

Kimberly Floyd in my car in LA

kitchen - Gilroy, CA

Apartment. Stanford, California.

San Jose, CA, bedroom

Fremont, CA on my Couch

work room, Los Altos CA

Living Room. Utqiagvik Alaska

Orlando, FL bedroom

I am in my kitchen in San francisco

Living room in Livermore, CA

Living room, San Mateo

new office in Austin Tx

Living room - Sonoma County

Home office, south of Tucson, AZ

Santa Rosa, California in the bedroom

living room, Santa Clara CA

Hello! My husband and I are in Belmont CA, joining you from our bedroom (where my desk is!)

HSP IN kitchen, Toronto

Sally Jones in my bedroom in Clarksville, maryland

Home office - Belvidere, Il

office in walnut creek

home office in Saint Helena, Ca

office in Boston, ms

Office Menlo Park

Couch, Arlington, VA

London, UK , livingroom

Bedroom, Walnut Creek

family room, Fremont CA

Bedroom in LA - Hi

Train Japan

boston,ma

Los Angeles, dining table

In my living room in the Bay Area

Car in Las Vegas

Living room in Burlingame, California,

the train in japan for the win!

Walking my dog in my neighborhood in Maryland

comfy chair, Bothell (north of Seattle) -

I’m an HSP

My son with ASD and ADHD

ND

ND

ND

nd

ND

ND

ND

Yes, nd

hsp - please include that in ND

ND

ND

ND

HSP! ND!

thank you

NT

NT

NT

sorta NT

NT

NT

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NT

NT

NT

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ND (and am a counselor/coach for ND clients)

NT

NT but suspicious

NT, however my roommate I believe is ND

NT

nt

NT/ND undecided

NT

NT

yes

Wierd, unprofessional --

officious

“Narcissist”, “sociopath”, “robot”, “alien”, “computer”, etc…

A dick

To interruptive

Yes- not so much names directly, but I’ve been yelled at by doctors. Health care can be tough!

clumsy. irritating

my yearbook had : “clare,with that look”

Manipulative

Indifferent, not interested, “why are you not happy” in a trip

How much stress I was causing him with my conversation style

he was autistic

I wish I would have known to choose my kids over the rest of the world.

It helps to have instructions written out

How to understand his lack of feeling

The diagnosis

It’s a long list

I wish I would have known he had multiple neurodiversities, and what bipolar was

I wish I would have known period

To be more patient

I wish I had understood that her behavior wasn’t wilfully rude/abrupt/etc

he was autistic and not just ADHD

How annoying loud noises were

Understood more

I wish I would have figured out things earlier

She wanted to talk with me

I wish I had known that this roommate was going to be anxious 24/7.

That his issues had a strong physical component--especially sensory issues

I had realized earlier of those in court who are affected by an FASD condition. Not understanding adequately.

How does Burns transaction psychology / theory play into this in support and a development pathway?

A sense of agency for both parent and child still poses a challenge for families today. Isolation and development being a challenge.

Wish I had realized earlier that so many in court proceedings are affected by an FASD condition results in accommodations such as slower hearings and plain English as much as possible.

can you share your email in the chatbox, ms burgess

ND in Oakland, CA

Ugh…the all-day meeting!:0 Thank you for talking about this!

https://sites.google.com/view/dyspraxialambeth/home

Talk about the dark side of family dynamics, the disabling parents who underestimate their children, over protect, and limit their possibilities.

i talk about the need for neurological safety in additional to psychological safety

linkedin.com/in/dyspraxia-lambeth-advocacy-and-consultancy-connected-neurodiversity-ma-ed-send-qts-995689169

I am autistic / Aspergers

I work for Griffin Hammis Associates, a disability policy consultancy that allows me to work from home and that accepts me for who I am

That URL didn’t become a link and can’t be copied.

I would love for more autistic people to find the kind of great employers like mine that accept me for whom I am as an autistic person

I don't have to work in an office and this ideal work environment to flourish

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dyspraxia-lambeth-advocacy-and-consultancy-connected-neurodiversity-ma-ed-send-qts-995689169/

ournals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/004005990904100304?casa_token=KQCU0OO4NN4AAAAA:vc-DJReufM4tfBQ8q5EjS7gfFV0ZMPiybVq4MmWjQTpO752s85vNHEseGYrFCTWeB6PnB3e-es4R4A

Empowering Stu dentsThrough AssertiveCommunication StrategiesSha ro n M. Kolb and Am y C. Steven

The “j” is missing from the beginning of the URL.

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/004005990904100304?casa_token=KQCU0OO4NN4AAAAA:vc-DJReufM4tfBQ8q5EjS7gfFV0ZMPiybVq4MmWjQTpO752s85vNHEseGYrFCTWeB6PnB3e-es4R4A

If you have questions for Allison, please submit them by using the Q&A function at the bottom of the window.

I can be reached at 954-907-6716 and Rebecca.witonsky22@gmail.com

Just logged on with laptop. Please repost links, as I can to get them on my phone. TIA

Empowering Students Through Assertive Communication Strategies Sharon M.Kolb and Amy C.Steven

Can you talk about how trauma can disrupt your relationship and be a trigger for your child moving into an alert or alarmed state? Can you talk about the importance of creating a safe environment at home and work?

agree! it’s about building confidence in asking. i’ve also been giving leadership workshops inviting leaders to ask their employees what they need.

THANK YOU!!!

thanks Allison! beautiful and helpful presentation!

Very eye opening presentation!

If you say the next mircrostep to do, it might work better: eg go put your water bottle in the backpack

Thankyou. Can you provide an example of supporting a person with pathological demand avoidance ? Reference to Milton

i came up with a model for leaders and parents helping others: ASKAnticipate - challengesSuggest- suggest solutionsKnow - get to know them better

but when you leave the room for a few minutes and then return, his socks are still not on

forget the diagnosis if she resists, just talk with her about the strategies and tactics that will work in the meantime

Awesome talk, thank you! Great advice.

love this answer. #nevermindthelabels

thank you! i will be reaching out to you if that’s ok. i’m starting a podcast about this. Happy Space pod. 😊

Dr Fung, how long do you want me to talk next month? 40 minute talk and 20 ,minutes for questions like Allison?

California schools, the D grade is passing. Yes, they do not care. Yes motivate

20 minutes about myself and 20 minutes about voc rehab and adults on the spectrum?

Is part of neurodivergence the inability to connect current behavior to future consequences? This feels so hard with tweenagers and teenagers.

The child

John And what if one parent is helpful but gets strongly resisted by the other parent/adults

Susan how indeed!

and what if the parent wants them to get a job and the ND refuses?

Diana kids have to learn to work early. Certainly before the graduate from high school. Temple Grandin says staret young! I had a paper route when I was 13. My parents gave me the one thing money cannot buy. Poverty. If I wanted money or things I had to work.

I’ve had to do that a lot in the health care system!

Many ND people can be helped by a safety net of support or benefits but can also try to work in competitive employment, either part time or full-time. There are also many ND people working in high-level work situations too. I think the key thing is trying to find work environments that are conducive to success , mindful of sensory needs and limits, and that work well for the individual (Temple Grandin says that as well). Educating employers and team members about neurodiversity is incredibly helpful.

Well said Jeanette!

Allison Lee Burgess, LMFTPsychotherapist & Family Clinical Consultantwww.AllisonLeeBurgess.com(424) 265-1552allison@allisonleeburgess.com

Hi John. I guess we missed that boat. He is 26 and only recently Dx ASD. always had ADHD

a ND person may be "refusing" because of very real employer limitations of not understanding or not having the bandwidth to work through differences. How can we support a ND person who TRULY wants to work self-advocate? While also educating the employer over time with relationship building?

Thanks, John Comegys.

Diana, you can still learn the sort of communication Allison is teaching, hold the line and start from where your ND person is, not from where they should be or might have been. Patient low level pressure works. My 40 year old nephew finally has worked steaduyly for the past 3 years. Whehhh!

Excellent talk. Thank you.

Thank you, Allison for your insight!

Really good talk Allison. I'll go look up your TED Talk.

Thank you so much!

Thank you, Allison so every much, your talk is very insightful and helpful to me.

I love your approach to this, Allison! I now see my sensitivity as a superpower.

Thank you, Dr. Fung!

Thank you ! Great talk!

Thank you Allison!

Thanks!!!

Thank you!

Thank you

Thank you Allison and Dr Fung. Happy Holidays!

Thank you Dr Fung

thank you!!!

Wonderful talk, Allison! Thank you!

Thank you Allison

Great talk! Also, I wanted to recommend Claire Kumar's Happiness Pod on Facebook for HSP/ND!

Thank you!

Thanks so much

Thanks

Thank you both and Happy Holidays!

Thank you so very much

Thank you Dr Fung and your team!