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Special Interest Group - Neurodiversity Monthly Meeting - Shared screen with speaker view
Tracy
18:48
Mill valley, California…living room :)
Sandra Fishler
18:49
Success Center San Mateo, CA
Matthias Cheung
18:49
Los Gatos, Office
Patricia Minor
18:50
Bedroom, Victoria BC Canada
Grace Wood
18:52
I’m in my living room in Berkeley, CA
Anke Reineke
18:53
Office in San Deigo
Diana Feiger
18:53
Couch in Oakland CA
Anne Kresta
18:53
Joining you from the kitchen of my home in Winnipeg Manitoba Canada
Laurel Burgess
18:54
I’m in my kitchen in Leawood, Kansas
Li Li
18:54
Living room, San Francisco
Suzanne Bacino
18:55
my LR in Stl
kim Patchell
18:57
Kitchen-Winnipeg, Manitoba Canada
Kimberly Floyd
18:57
Kimberly Floyd in my car in LA
Anne Su
18:58
kitchen - Gilroy, CA
Bryce Bagley
18:59
Apartment. Stanford, California.
ayako lainez
18:59
San Jose, CA, bedroom
Kokil Bakshi
18:59
Fremont, CA on my Couch
Jennifer Brooks
19:01
work room, Los Altos CA
Michael I Jeffery
19:01
Living Room. Utqiagvik Alaska
Mikael Wolfe
19:02
Orlando, FL bedroom
Sally Spencer
19:02
I am in my kitchen in San francisco
Amy Kudenov
19:03
Living room in Livermore, CA
josephine cheung
19:04
Living room, San Mateo
Helen Koon
19:05
new office in Austin Tx
Angela Barker
19:05
Living room - Sonoma County
John Comegys
19:06
Home office, south of Tucson, AZ
Damaris Ramos
19:08
Santa Rosa, California in the bedroom
Carey Knowles
19:08
living room, Santa Clara CA
Julie Williamson
19:09
Hello! My husband and I are in Belmont CA, joining you from our bedroom (where my desk is!)
Clare Kumar
19:10
HSP IN kitchen, Toronto
Sally Jones
19:10
Sally Jones in my bedroom in Clarksville, maryland
Christopher Wells
19:10
Home office - Belvidere, Il
Sarah Williams
19:11
office in walnut creek
Teresa DeVincenzi
19:11
home office in Saint Helena, Ca
Marci Shaffer
19:12
office in Boston, ms
Janet Miller
19:13
Office Menlo Park
Deborah Akinyele
19:16
Couch, Arlington, VA
Gavin Hoole
19:17
London, UK , livingroom
Christine Lindholm
19:18
Bedroom, Walnut Creek
Miran Wong
19:18
family room, Fremont CA
mkennedy
19:19
Bedroom in LA - Hi
KEITA SUZUKI
19:21
Train Japan
Marci Shaffer
19:23
boston,ma
Denise Ayres
19:24
Los Angeles, dining table
AnDrea Crawford
19:28
In my living room in the Bay Area
zhanqi
19:35
Car in Las Vegas
Rena Gilligan
19:38
Living room in Burlingame, California,
Tracy
19:38
the train in japan for the win!
Tonya Davis
19:45
Walking my dog in my neighborhood in Maryland
Jeanette Ashworth
19:51
comfy chair, Bothell (north of Seattle) -
Grace Wood
20:40
I’m an HSP
josephine cheung
20:51
My son with ASD and ADHD
Bryce Bagley
20:53
ND
Ava Gurba
20:55
ND
Jennifer Brooks
20:56
ND
Reil Brennan
20:57
nd
ayako lainez
20:58
ND
kim Patchell
20:58
ND
Damaris Ramos
20:58
ND
Gavin Hoole
21:00
Yes, nd
Clare Kumar
21:00
hsp - please include that in ND
John Comegys
21:01
ND
Diana Feiger
21:03
ND
Tonya Davis
21:10
ND
ayako lainez
21:14
HSP! ND!
Clare Kumar
21:16
thank you
Julie Williamson
21:20
NT
Mikael Wolfe
21:20
NT
Sally Jones
21:20
NT
Anne Kresta
21:22
sorta NT
Helen Koon
21:27
NT
Christine Lindholm
21:27
NT
Sandra Fishler
21:29
NT
Angela Barker
21:29
NT
Kokil Bakshi
21:29
NT
Anne Su
21:30
NT
Li Li
21:31
NT
Sarah Williams
21:32
NT
Chang Li
21:34
NT
Egle Narevic
21:34
NT
Michael I Jeffery
21:34
NT
Jeanette Ashworth
21:35
ND (and am a counselor/coach for ND clients)
Christopher Wells
21:35
NT
Sandra Villafan
21:36
NT but suspicious
Denise Ayres
21:39
NT, however my roommate I believe is ND
KEITA SUZUKI
21:40
NT
Suzanne Bacino
21:40
nt
Matthias Cheung
21:43
NT/ND undecided
Marlane Huffaker
21:51
NT
Veronica Huey
21:54
NT
Damaris Ramos
23:25
yes
John Comegys
23:44
Wierd, unprofessional --
Diana Feiger
23:45
officious
Bryce Bagley
23:53
“Narcissist”, “sociopath”, “robot”, “alien”, “computer”, etc…
Reil Brennan
23:55
A dick
kim Patchell
24:01
To interruptive
Grace Wood
24:12
Yes- not so much names directly, but I’ve been yelled at by doctors. Health care can be tough!
Gavin Hoole
24:13
clumsy. irritating
Clare Kumar
24:27
my yearbook had : “clare,with that look”
Tonya Davis
24:29
Manipulative
Li Li
24:32
Indifferent, not interested, “why are you not happy” in a trip
Anne Su
25:33
How much stress I was causing him with my conversation style
Matthias Cheung
25:37
he was autistic
Julie Williamson
25:38
I wish I would have known to choose my kids over the rest of the world.
Sandra Villafan
25:38
It helps to have instructions written out
Sally Jones
25:38
How to understand his lack of feeling
Sylvia Benzler
25:44
The diagnosis
Tonya Davis
25:49
It’s a long list
Patricia Minor
25:50
I wish I would have known he had multiple neurodiversities, and what bipolar was
Kimberly Floyd
25:50
I wish I would have known period
Marlane Huffaker
25:56
To be more patient
Mikael Wolfe
25:59
I wish I had understood that her behavior wasn’t wilfully rude/abrupt/etc
Diana Feiger
26:06
he was autistic and not just ADHD
Sylvia Benzler
26:06
How annoying loud noises were
Sally Jones
26:07
Understood more
Kokil Bakshi
26:09
I wish I would have figured out things earlier
Li Li
26:10
She wanted to talk with me
Denise Ayres
26:15
I wish I had known that this roommate was going to be anxious 24/7.
Christine Lindholm
26:16
That his issues had a strong physical component--especially sensory issues
Michael I Jeffery
26:28
I had realized earlier of those in court who are affected by an FASD condition. Not understanding adequately.
Gavin Hoole
27:50
How does Burns transaction psychology / theory play into this in support and a development pathway?
Gavin Hoole
31:40
A sense of agency for both parent and child still poses a challenge for families today. Isolation and development being a challenge.
Michael I Jeffery
32:31
Wish I had realized earlier that so many in court proceedings are affected by an FASD condition results in accommodations such as slower hearings and plain English as much as possible.
Rebecca Witonsky
39:03
can you share your email in the chatbox, ms burgess
Noah Tenney
39:25
ND in Oakland, CA
Grace Wood
39:57
Ugh…the all-day meeting!:0 Thank you for talking about this!
Gavin Hoole
40:19
https://sites.google.com/view/dyspraxialambeth/home
John Comegys
40:59
Talk about the dark side of family dynamics, the disabling parents who underestimate their children, over protect, and limit their possibilities.
Clare Kumar
42:41
i talk about the need for neurological safety in additional to psychological safety
Gavin Hoole
43:20
linkedin.com/in/dyspraxia-lambeth-advocacy-and-consultancy-connected-neurodiversity-ma-ed-send-qts-995689169
Rebecca Witonsky
44:24
I am autistic / Aspergers
Rebecca Witonsky
45:35
I work for Griffin Hammis Associates, a disability policy consultancy that allows me to work from home and that accepts me for who I am
Noah Tenney
46:12
That URL didn’t become a link and can’t be copied.
Rebecca Witonsky
46:36
I would love for more autistic people to find the kind of great employers like mine that accept me for whom I am as an autistic person
Rebecca Witonsky
47:17
I don't have to work in an office and this ideal work environment to flourish
Gavin Hoole
47:31
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dyspraxia-lambeth-advocacy-and-consultancy-connected-neurodiversity-ma-ed-send-qts-995689169/
Gavin Hoole
50:43
ournals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/004005990904100304?casa_token=KQCU0OO4NN4AAAAA:vc-DJReufM4tfBQ8q5EjS7gfFV0ZMPiybVq4MmWjQTpO752s85vNHEseGYrFCTWeB6PnB3e-es4R4A
Gavin Hoole
51:15
Empowering Stu dentsThrough AssertiveCommunication StrategiesSha ro n M. Kolb and Am y C. Steven
Noah Tenney
51:25
The “j” is missing from the beginning of the URL.
Gavin Hoole
52:26
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/004005990904100304?casa_token=KQCU0OO4NN4AAAAA:vc-DJReufM4tfBQ8q5EjS7gfFV0ZMPiybVq4MmWjQTpO752s85vNHEseGYrFCTWeB6PnB3e-es4R4A
Lawrence Fung
54:13
If you have questions for Allison, please submit them by using the Q&A function at the bottom of the window.
Rebecca Witonsky
55:24
I can be reached at 954-907-6716 and Rebecca.witonsky22@gmail.com
Beth Vidakovits
55:43
Just logged on with laptop. Please repost links, as I can to get them on my phone. TIA
Gavin Hoole
56:05
Empowering Students Through Assertive Communication Strategies Sharon M.Kolb and Amy C.Steven
Harri O’Kelley
56:14
Can you talk about how trauma can disrupt your relationship and be a trigger for your child moving into an alert or alarmed state? Can you talk about the importance of creating a safe environment at home and work?
Clare Kumar
56:16
agree! it’s about building confidence in asking. i’ve also been giving leadership workshops inviting leaders to ask their employees what they need.
Kimberly Floyd
56:43
THANK YOU!!!
Karissa Burnett
57:18
thanks Allison! beautiful and helpful presentation!
Kimberly Floyd
57:44
Very eye opening presentation!
Susan Melnik
01:00:18
If you say the next mircrostep to do, it might work better: eg go put your water bottle in the backpack
Gavin Hoole
01:00:20
Thankyou. Can you provide an example of supporting a person with pathological demand avoidance ? Reference to Milton
Clare Kumar
01:02:15
i came up with a model for leaders and parents helping others: ASKAnticipate - challengesSuggest- suggest solutionsKnow - get to know them better
Susan Melnik
01:02:30
but when you leave the room for a few minutes and then return, his socks are still not on
Susan Melnik
01:04:02
forget the diagnosis if she resists, just talk with her about the strategies and tactics that will work in the meantime
Harri O’Kelley
01:04:05
Awesome talk, thank you! Great advice.
Clare Kumar
01:04:22
love this answer. #nevermindthelabels
Clare Kumar
01:05:18
thank you! i will be reaching out to you if that’s ok. i’m starting a podcast about this. Happy Space pod. 😊
John Comegys
01:06:19
Dr Fung, how long do you want me to talk next month? 40 minute talk and 20 ,minutes for questions like Allison?
Beth Vidakovits
01:07:19
California schools, the D grade is passing. Yes, they do not care. Yes motivate
John Comegys
01:07:31
20 minutes about myself and 20 minutes about voc rehab and adults on the spectrum?
Julie Williamson
01:09:46
Is part of neurodivergence the inability to connect current behavior to future consequences? This feels so hard with tweenagers and teenagers.
Harri O’Kelley
01:12:58
The child
Susan Melnik
01:15:39
John And what if one parent is helpful but gets strongly resisted by the other parent/adults
John Comegys
01:16:21
Susan how indeed!
Diana Feiger
01:17:12
and what if the parent wants them to get a job and the ND refuses?
John Comegys
01:19:39
Diana kids have to learn to work early. Certainly before the graduate from high school. Temple Grandin says staret young! I had a paper route when I was 13. My parents gave me the one thing money cannot buy. Poverty. If I wanted money or things I had to work.
Grace Wood
01:19:44
I’ve had to do that a lot in the health care system!
Jeanette Ashworth
01:22:33
Many ND people can be helped by a safety net of support or benefits but can also try to work in competitive employment, either part time or full-time. There are also many ND people working in high-level work situations too. I think the key thing is trying to find work environments that are conducive to success , mindful of sensory needs and limits, and that work well for the individual (Temple Grandin says that as well). Educating employers and team members about neurodiversity is incredibly helpful.
John Comegys
01:23:20
Well said Jeanette!
Lawrence Fung
01:23:29
Allison Lee Burgess, LMFTPsychotherapist & Family Clinical Consultantwww.AllisonLeeBurgess.com(424) 265-1552allison@allisonleeburgess.com
Diana Feiger
01:23:41
Hi John. I guess we missed that boat. He is 26 and only recently Dx ASD. always had ADHD
Anne Su
01:23:56
a ND person may be "refusing" because of very real employer limitations of not understanding or not having the bandwidth to work through differences. How can we support a ND person who TRULY wants to work self-advocate? While also educating the employer over time with relationship building?
Jeanette Ashworth
01:24:38
Thanks, John Comegys.
John Comegys
01:25:47
Diana, you can still learn the sort of communication Allison is teaching, hold the line and start from where your ND person is, not from where they should be or might have been. Patient low level pressure works. My 40 year old nephew finally has worked steaduyly for the past 3 years. Whehhh!
Marlane Huffaker
01:26:06
Excellent talk. Thank you.
Anne Su
01:26:19
Thank you, Allison for your insight!
John Comegys
01:26:51
Really good talk Allison. I'll go look up your TED Talk.
AnDrea Crawford
01:26:53
Thank you so much!
Matthias Cheung
01:27:36
Thank you, Allison so every much, your talk is very insightful and helpful to me.
Grace Wood
01:27:37
I love your approach to this, Allison! I now see my sensitivity as a superpower.
Grace Wood
01:27:50
Thank you, Dr. Fung!
Susan Melnik
01:27:52
Thank you ! Great talk!
Angela Barker
01:28:00
Thank you Allison!
Kokil Bakshi
01:28:04
Thanks!!!
Chang Li
01:28:06
Thank you!
Beth Vidakovits
01:28:27
Thank you
Carey Knowles
01:28:28
Thank you Allison and Dr Fung. Happy Holidays!
Matthias Cheung
01:28:36
Thank you Dr Fung
Clare Kumar
01:28:36
thank you!!!
Suzanne Bacino
01:28:36
Wonderful talk, Allison! Thank you!
Diana Feiger
01:28:40
Thank you Allison
Jeanette Ashworth
01:28:41
Great talk! Also, I wanted to recommend Claire Kumar's Happiness Pod on Facebook for HSP/ND!
Li Li
01:28:42
Thank you!
Melina Auerbach
01:28:46
Thanks so much
MARTHA GOFF
01:28:47
Thanks
Bhu Raj
01:28:54
Thank you both and Happy Holidays!
John Comegys
01:28:54
Thank you so very much
Jeanette Ashworth
01:29:00
Thank you Dr Fung and your team!